I called this the pearl harbor of un- forgiveness because it is a battle that many face.
For the past 5 years I struggled with being critical of others. Secretly I battled with this. Not because I am a judgmental person but because I was hurt by my peers in the faith. Any one that knows me knows I love people and deeply care about them. I mean I have been lied on, gossiped about, things where said that I supposedly said and they never came out my mouth, things I had confided in people about where being twisted and used against me. I was more then hurt, I was deeply wounded. I was so affected by all the drama I cut everyone out my life.
I thought that would help and would heal my deep cut wounds. I already struggled with acceptance due to being picked on as a child for being over weight. I never have fit in. I was always just the fat white girl who raps.
I will admit I have never have publically expressed what I felt about others on social media because that would put me in the category as a bully. I did how ever confront the people that hurt me. Some apologized and some felt they did nothing wrong. I even apologized to people who felt they did nothing wrong. It recently started to resurface and I confided in a pastor and a leader and I think that was the best thing to do. They have helped me through my un-forgiveness that I was harboring towards the people that hurt me. Even though they feel they did nothing wrong. I write this to tell you there is freedom in forgiveness. While you are sitting home hurt, people are going on with there lives not really thinking about how they hurt or affected you. Forgiveness is so crucial in our walk with God and can also affect our relationship with him and others. I am not saying that you have to be best friends with that person that hurt you. I am asking you though if that person was in pain or suffering would you help them even though they hurt you.
Even deeper could you look at that person and not have one negative thought about them. Christ has forgiven us and the truth is we all do deserve hell. So we are we to not forgive others. We must learn to put down our pride and forgive others. I love you all and I hope this story was a blessing to you.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
2 Corinthians 5:18-19 All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.
When Pilot was talking to Jesus he asked him don’t you hear the accusations they bring again you. Jesus didn’t say a word.
Why do we feel we need to defend our reasoning when even the son of man himself didn’t. Most would say he was being humble. I just think he knew who he was and his purpose.
As humans there are 3 reasons we are trying to stick up for our reasoning either we care what people may think, we are trying to cover up the wrong motive, or we just simply think we are right.
3 words come to mind when rereading that.
Are we implying we are defend our selves before a crowd.
We often fall into caring so much what people think of us we loose sight and focus of the purpose. We want our opinions to be heard and valued by everyone who hears them.
Our pride doesn’t allow us to be wrong.
We need to be more like christ.
Jesus spoke facts and yet even he let people say what ever. All he cared about was what his father thought and what his father said.
Be who God intended you to be with out compromising the Gospel being lived out through your life.
I say this in love to everyone who reads this because not to long ago I was there.
I am not trying to scare people into heaven nor am I trying to preach false doctrine about what God can do for you today. I am simply preaching that Gods love is so great that he gave his son to take the atonement for our sins. We are to live for God because our life is not our own. We are to love others, we are to serve others. We are to correct our brothers and sisters in private. God is loving but he is also just. He is the judge. Say someone killed your mother and the person goes to trail. Would that judge be a good judge to let that person go free with out paying for there actions and disobedience to the law. Of coarse not. It would be unfair. That is how God is with us. Though we are saved by his grace there are consequences to our actions. He is just!
To many christians look crazy on social media. They always seem angry at people/the church and yet we are suppose to be the example.The bible clearly states that they are suppose to know christ by our love for one another. Not saying we have to be perfect but remember you once where in those same shoes as others and God pulled you out the situation, he doesn’t need you to do his job. Your job is not to change people. Your job is to uplift others build with them. Find out what they like. Do life with them. Let your example be the light in there life. If you have an issue with a brother / sister pull them a side and gently correct them if they don’t listen to you then give it to the lord. Don’t stop being there friend or count them off or question there salvation.
For the people who only speak about love. You can’t always speak just love and how God is always love with out speaking about God’s wrath. The bible also states that God is love but yet consuming fire. If we are to teach scripture let it be in its entirety. By the way the definition of consume is : To be destroyed, expended, or wasted. The definition of Fire-A rapid: persistent chemical change that releases heat and light and is accompanied by flame, especially the exothermic oxidation of a combustible substance. The bible warns that people in the last days will be false preachers. Preachers of false hope instead of the gospel. lovers of money, and full of selfish gain. Love also doesn’t mean you don’t correct if you love someone you correct them. Again if they don’t listen pray for them build with them but don’t count them off and judge them and say I don’t think that person is saved. Man can never judge the contents of someones heart.
In conclusion we need to correct but in love and we need love but correctly.